Play the long game dating
This is the core thinking of the partner who initiates hot/cold, and serves as their safety net to vulnerability. Because relationship uncertainty makes human beings yearn for stability.
Our automatic response is to chase when the “other” pulls away.
The subsequent relationship effects, mind you, not the level of moral offense.
The point is not that men get some sort of free pass for cheating, only that a woman stands a pretty good chance of keeping her husband if she wants to and is willing to play her cards correctly.
To date, at least according to Google Analytics nearly 15,000,000 people have visited this blog. To that end, I wanted to share only one thing I’ve learned, and it started with my job at What I mean is, to be clear: I’ve been offered a lot of shortcuts along the way. and that that was realistically the best thing I could TRY to do… 10,000 hours still applies no matter what anyone sells you on in my opinion, for what’s that worth. ALWAYS CHOOSE THE DIFFICULT PATH – the “LONG GAME.” Even if you don’t, truly know why…
And truth be told: so far this upcoming decade looks to be PHENOMENAL. People of all ages, of all income types, and of all backgrounds and interests from all over the world. yada yada yada..” And this quickly taught me that the only constructive thing that I could possibly try to do, was to share an mentor any of those who wanted to listen to my gibberish…
“She surrendered unconditionally,” Shirley Eskapa recalled. The husband duly returned to the marital home, not merely repentant, but supremely grateful.
Men, on the other hand, are pretty much toast if things reach that point because the female inclination to wander is usually predicated on the death of her attraction to her husband.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication… This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner’s reactions are not.
You wonder what happened and begin to question every move you made. Simply put, when you pull away, they’ll re-engage you. After a cycle or two of this routine you’ll be so confused you won’t know which way to move.
And what I learned from them was: NEVER TAKE SHORTCUTS…
One minute you’re high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you’re frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don’t understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games.